Saturday, December 31, 2011

Culture of Food

The Culture of Food
When I was in college, I had a really fascinating class on Food and Culture in America. We studied immigrant cultures and their foods. Then once a week we worked in the "lab" (a room with multiple kitchen areas) in groups preparing menu selections from the various cultures we had studied. It was so much fun! The idea was that if we are required to provide medical nutrition therapy to individuals from other cultures, we would need insight into how they eat at home.

One of our assignments was to research our own family culture. What foods were passed down from parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, aunts etc.? I interviewed my mother (both sets of grandparents passed when I was young). I learned where some of our family recipes came from.

Like most families, we had our traditional foods and family favorites. We always ate dinner at the table (always at 5:30!), and most of our meals were made “from scratch”, including some of our breads and desserts. We had a large family table, as I have 8 siblings. Holiday meals and family cook-outs are some of my fondest childhood memories.

For many years, my mother had a tremendous organic garden. I remember crawling through the “forest” of vegetables, crunching fresh beans, cucumbers and corn right off the plants. I also remember her working all day in the hot kitchen, carefully preserving all that freshness.

Another of my favorite memories is the baking – such sweet memories of rolling-pins and dough, sweet cookies and cakes. Rhubarb pie! Who would imagine a vegetable could make a sweet dessert?!

Both of my parents are now deceased, but I became the keeper of the recipes. I have my mother's file box of index card recipes - all properly labeled and filed. Some are neatly hand-written, many are typed. There is  a binder with loose recipe scraps and newspaper clippings of recipes she had tried over the years, (I suppose these were not good enough to make it into the recipe box?)

My favorite thing is her very old edition of "The American Woman Cookbook Wartime Edition, With Victory Substitutes and Economical Recipes for Delicious Wartime Meals." 1944 Edition. It has gorgeous illustrations of beautifully presented family meals, appetizers, deserts, beverages, you name it. It begins with an introduction to basic nutrition, which is still sensible today, despite all the diet and nutrition fads between then and now.

It is exciting for me to feel the connection as I teach my children to bake, using the same red-handled wooden rolling pin that my mother used with me so long ago. I am proud to say my eleven-year old son is quite the baker, and I can see the joy and self-confidence it gives him, knowing he can take some simple ingredients and create something tasty for others.

Alina and Sita baking cookies for Santa.


Thinking of all the families rushing from one activity to another, eating on the run, always utilizing our modern “convenience foods” and missing out on all those special moments of taking in a good, made from scratch, wholesome meal, I feel an overwhelming sense of gratitude. I am grateful to my mother and all that she taught, modeled and shared with me. I am grateful to know the importance of quiet and peaceful meals with my family; the satisfaction of creating the meal, the joy of sharing it. I am grateful for the time and memories I am passing on to my own children. I am hopeful that they too will take the time to cook and bake and eat slow, wholesome meals together with their families in the future.

Here are a few of my mother’s recipes. I would love to hear from you - share your special family recipes and the story that belongs with them.

Corn Chowder
Olive oil
Diced ham (or bacon)
Onion
Potatoes, cut into bite-sized pieces
water
Cream style corn (I use canned)
Milk or cream
Salt
Pepper
Paprika

Heat oil in the pan on medium heat.
Add onions, cook until translucent
Add ham and heat
Add chopped potatoes and just enough water to cover the potatoes
Cook until the potatoes are tender, turning heat down to low.
Add creamed corn, salt, pepper and paprika to taste
Add the milk or cream at the end, heat through.
I usually serve garnished with a sprinkle of pepper and paprika.

I don’t use measurements, since it all depends on how much I want to make (a big batch, or little?) and/or how much ingredients I have on hand.

Spinach Pie
1 package frozen spinach, thawed and drained well. I usually place my spinach in a colander and squeeze the excess water out. Fresh steamed spinach can be used as well.
1 cup cottage cheese
3 eggs, beaten lightly
2 Tbs. cornstarch
Salt, pepper, paprika
Pie crust (sorry, I use the frozen prepared)
1 cup of your favorite cheese, shredded

After removing excess water from the spinach mix everything into a bowl, pour into pie crust, and bake at 350 for 45 minutes. Check to see if the middle has “set” (is firm). Sometimes the baking time is longer, depending on how much water has been removed from the spinach.

When you take it out of the oven, add your favorite shredded cheese (we use cheddar) while it is still hot. (The cheese melts and tastes delicious).

Grandpa's Bar B Q Sauce
I have only made this once, and it was tough because mom’s measurements were not precise. She uses “small” and “large” sized containers, but we have a lot more variety in sizes today than when she originally wrote this recipe down years and years ago. Funny how written recipes come into being.  This one was concocted from my mother’s father, a Florida native.

1/3 cup oil
2 medium onions, chopped
Fry until done, lower heat
1 large bottle ketchup
1/2 bottle Worcestershire (small)
Juice of 2 lemons
1/4 cup vinegar
tsp. salt
tsp. pepper
Cup of sugar
Hot sauce to taste
Simmer 15 minutes, remove from heat, add 1/2 small jar mustard
Used on pulled pork or beef

Thanks for reading, and feel free to share!
Michelle

                            










Not So Crafty

I am always amazed and inspired by the crafty moms out there. I greatly enjoy my crafting activities, although there is a lot of room for improvement.

What am I gaining from my crafting activities? (Besides some great knitted items, and natural material toys for my children).

  • A great sense of satisfaction. I love taking raw material and turning it into something useful and attractive (they are beautiful to me, flaws and all).
  • The great feeling of gift-giving, amplified because you took the time and effort to make it yourself.
  • Developing my will force - in order for me to do something well, I have to s-l-o-w down. This is big for me as I tend to rush from one thing to another, wanting to "check it off the to-do list".
  • Learning to enjoy the process.
  • Developing new and useful skills.
  • Becoming more self-sufficient.
  • Learning to finish what I start - there are some many great projects out there, but I have to discipline myself to finish projects before rushing out to start new ones. Doesn't mean I don't have several projects going at once, but I have to set limits for myself and be sure to go back and finish the projects I have become either bored or frustrated with.
  • Being a good role model for my children. I have heard the pride in my 11-year old's voice when he tells someone "my mom made it!".
I want to share some photos of a few of my less-than-perfect crafts. For those of you too intimidated to try knitting or needle felting, or feel inadequate compared to the amazing crafters out there, know that you are not alone. But also know that there is much to be gained simply from the act of trying and doing your best. After all, isn't this what we want for our children?
Michelle



Thursday, December 29, 2011

Voices In my Head

The Voice in My Head
No wonder I walk around tired and tense so often. Have you ever stopped to listen to the voice inside your own head? The one that talks to you all day? I have, and it’s not very nice.

I don’t know if I was born with the self-esteem I have or if I have cultivated it over time. But here is a recent “talk” I overheard (or at least was present and conscious enough for a moment to take notice of).
“You know you have always been a late bloomer. You are always behind in the maturity scale. Why did you say (or not say) what you did? How many of the decisions you are making daily will you come to regret later? Are you truly focused on the right things? Remember in the past how you made so many mistakes and …”

How can I possibly talk to myself this way? I would never talk to a friend, child, sibling, spouse, client or even a stranger in such a harsh and unforgiving way. I have tried self-help and those “positive aspirations” before. They seem so hokey. “OK, now tell yourself out loud ten times what a great person you are”. You feel so silly.

But something has to change. I do need to change the dialogue in my head. I am an intelligent strong woman. I learn from mistakes. I am evolving. I strive to improve myself in big ways and in small ways. I set goals, I meet them.

What I should be saying to myself is more along the lines of this:
“Wow, you are really doing some great things with your life. You are accomplishing so much. You have work that is meaningful and benefits others. You are doing a fantastic job raising your kids, educating your kids, and providing meaningful values to them. You are a good listener, compassionate, funny, and humble. You are working hard to learn new things every day. You are working hard to bring good things to your family including good meals and nutritious wholesome food. You care about the environment…”

What is your voice telling you on a daily basis? Could your voice use a little boost of positive enthusiasm? Listen closely to your thought patterns and see what happens.
Michelle

Wednesday, December 28, 2011

New Year Nutrition

New Year resolutions again. Time to start exercising and eating healthier. How many times have you tried to either eat healthier or lose weight on a diet? If you are like most people, you start out with high hopes and good intentions, only to be disappointed in the end. When you go on a diet, you start restricting your foods and end up thinking more about the foods you can’t eat, rather than enjoying all foods in moderation. There is “the last supper” syndrome, the big meal before the start of the diet.  And the “all or nothing” tendency. If you break your diet with a cheat food, you decide since you blew it, you might as well go on eating, until you find you have binged. All this leads to little or no weight loss, disappointment, and feeling like a failure.

If this sounds familiar to you, why don’t you try a different approach this year? Instead of dieting or trying to fix everything about your diet, why not try setting some small goals?  

For example, if you find yourself skipping meals and then overeating, make a plan to carry healthy snacks such as crackers with cheese, nuts, yogurt, fruit, and sandwiches. Pack a snack bag every other day and keep it with you. Put some salad mix in Tupperware bowls. Using the pre-washed mixed lettuce and tossing in some baby carrots will save you time. You can add some protein with the packed chicken that is seasoned, cooked, and sliced, and in a ziplock bag.

Understand that there are no good or bad foods. You can eat everything in moderation. Don’t feel guilty because you ate something that wasn’t GOOD for you, or that was high in fat, carbohydrates, or calories. Just try to moderate how much you eat, and concentrate on all the healthy foods that you enjoy eating. Allow yourself a little of those “cheat foods”, enjoy every bite, and then move on. By allowing yourself this small treat, and knowing you don’t have to feel guilty or restrict these foods, you won’t feel like you have to binge since you “blew your diet anyway”.

Know your weaknesses and have a plan. Making small changes and striving for consistency can make a big difference over the long run.

Michelle

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

HEAD, HEART, HANDS

Carrie at the Parenting Passageway recently posted on the importance of including artistic activities in our daily lessons (read it here). I will admit this is an area I have been struggling with a lot this year. Trying to juggle the needs of the seven-year old first grader, my blossoming adolescent fifth grader, and a very busy two-year old.

I am planning a weekly schedule, since this is what worked best last year. In other words, we will have a form drawing day (Mondays), a baking day (Tuesdays), a painting day (Wednesdays), and a modeling day (Thursdays). These activities will occur in the afternoons.

We also include movement in our morning routine, as we prepare ourselves for lessons. This is followed by music practice - both the recorder and the piano, since the oldest two are taking lessons. I find it best to practice music at the beginning of our day, or it ends up getting skipped.

I recently received Eric Fairman's Path of Discovery for grade one, from Bob and Nancy's Bookstore. There are some lovely ideas for verses and movements. It is difficult to have "circle time" with so few of us, and I get a lot of eye rolls. But I will keep at them, because I do believe in the benefits.

I'm optimistic I can make this work, and looking forward to more creativity in our life. What about the rest of you, how do you include the artistic activities and what are you doing?

Off to memorize some new verses...
Michelle

Monday, December 26, 2011

Looking Back - Looking Ahead

If you are like many people, you find yourself doing some reflection at this time of the year. Many of us are thinking about the new year and possibly some "New Year Resolutions". What are your goals, aspirations, and hopes for the coming year?

Although I am constantly aspiring to better myself, this year I decided to give myself a little credit for all that I have accomplished. Instead of focusing only on what more I can improve upon and change, I am taking a moment to look back and acknowledge everything that I have already accomplished, changed for the better, and improved upon.

Let me share some of my story.

Although I knew I wanted to home school when my oldest was a toddler, circumstances prevented me from devoting myself to home education. Losing both my parents within 18 months, a divorce, single parenting while working two jobs, a child custody fight, several major moves and job changes, all within three years, kept me mentally and emotionally drained.

I remarried, had a new baby and was presented with the opportunity to stay home with my children. It was wonderful! The stability of our days, the time together, improved relationships. Taking a deep breath, I was able to start focusing on our home and family life.

Some of the positive changes we have experienced:
  • decreased media - no more handheld gaming devices, no more television morning and night, no more inappropriate movies, no Ipods.
  • increased routine - family meal times at the table with a candle and a blessing; regular bed-times and waking times; outside time daily; chore schedules; lots of read-alouds and daily imaginative play times.
  • improved nutrition - less packaged "convenience" foods and more made-from-scratch foods, garden grown vegetables, weekly farmer's market visits, pick-your-own farm visits, organic and local food purchases, and family discussions about why all this matters.
  • home education, including joining a local Waldorf home school cooperative that meets weekly.
This may be something that you have experienced from the beginning with your family, but it was missing from my life for a long time. When contemplating changes, in the beginning I felt so overwhelmed, where to start? But one change leads to another, and before you know it, things start falling in to place.

But I am still aspiring. What changes am I looking for in the coming year? I will be thinking about this over the next several weeks. I would love to hear what others are aspiring to, as they contemplate the new calendar year. And don't forget to take some time to focus on what you have accomplished this past year.
Michelle

Friday, December 23, 2011

Seasons of Life

We are approaching a new year. I love new beginnings. Like the seasons of the year, the cycles are ever consistent and there is something special to enjoy in each of the seasons. I lived for several years in Northern California as well as the Outer Banks of North Carolina, and I always missed the sense of the constant changing of seasons.

I notice myself in a new cycle in my life as well. I’m not sure how long this particular season will last or where it will take me. I would call it my season of self-reflection. I have always been a strong introvert and a goal setter. I love to write down my goals and dreams and then work to achieve them. I am happy to say I have completed many of the major goals I have set for myself, whether they were athletic in nature, my education and career goals, or the smaller more personal goals – learning to knit, cooking homemade meals from scratch, gardening for my family, reducing the media exposure in our home.

Unfortunately, despite my many successes, I would say I tend to dream small. I have heard the stories of highly successful people and have read my share of self-help books over the years. And they all recommend you should dream big. But I find I talk myself out of the big dreams with a whole host of reasons why “that would never work!” I appreciate that I am a practical person, but what would happen if I did dream big? What would I dream for?

I’m not talking World Peace here, I’m talking personal goals that have the potential to affect not only the direction of my own life, but also of the lives of everyone who is close to me, including my husband, children, siblings, friends and acquaintances.

What would you dream for if you knew you could not fail? I challenge you to consider this between now and the new-year. I will be.